I am only 22 and I often feel like I have failed in the career aspect of my life. Then I remind myself, I have neither failed or succeeded because the thing is, I’ve just barely started my journey! I graduated from uni just over a year ago and after 6 painful months of being unemployed and sending email after email and CV after CV, I finally found a job. I am 22, I have two part-time jobs, I have an income and with baby steps, I have in a way started my career.
Where was I expecting to be a year after graduation?! Did I really think I would find the perfect job and have a full 5-days-a-week teaching schedule (I am a ballet teacher btw; in case you didn’t know)?! Erm no. And that’s okay. And who knows… maybe I wouldn’t be happy if I did have a full-time teaching job. Everyone’s journey is different
This day and age we live in, makes success seem so easy. We follow all these 20-something young, successful, social media stars and instantly start thinking that we are doing everything wrong with our lives. This is not anyone else’s fault, but ours. These people online worked hard and got lucky and have been able to build a great career at a very young age. Good for them!!! What we forget is that these people are the minority. The majority of people that are in their 20s are just getting started.
We hear about people in their 40s and 50s doing great things and getting into new careers and actually succeeding. So why are we putting so much pressure on ourselves?! It does not mean you have failed just because you haven’t succeeded yet. Building a successful career (whatever that means to every one of us) takes hard work, over a very long period of time. It does not happen overnight. Some people reach their goals in the early 20s and some in their late 50s. What we all have to remember is that as long as we are alive, THERE IS STILL TIME. Think about this as well: if on average you are going to work for 40 years throughout your lifetime, who says that you have to spend it doing that one job?! To me, 40 years sounds like plenty of time for a change of career, or two (if you are up for it).
I think we should all just STOP comparing ourselves altogether. Everyone’s journey is unique. Just because your friend got their dream job right after graduation and you haven’t, doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. Trust the journey and have faith in yourself. People go through different stages of life at different times. I am a strong believer in that everything in our lives happens at the right time, for the right reason (even if we can’t understand it at the time) so just be patient, work hard and have faith.
Remember: AGE IS JUST A NUMBER! Get things into perspective. Stop trying to take the easy route because that almost never works. Be passionate about what you want to do and work hard for it. And hopefully one day, you will reach your goals.