No matter how often we do it, we are all guilty of comparing ourselves to others. I don’t know if it is in our human nature to compare ourselves or if I should blame the society that we live in. I am not sure and I don’t really care either. What I do care about, is bringing an end to it.
Some of us do it more than others. I would assume that some people like the challenge of comparing their selves and trying to be better than someone else (and ultimately improving themselves in the process). Personally, I am not one of those people that think or work this way. This, however, is the only case I can think of, were comparing yourself to others can be somewhat ‘good’ for you. In every other scenario, comparing yourself to others can only do you harm and when you let it take over, it can be catastrophic.
Comparing yourself is a bad habit. It is a habit that you form just like smoking or drinking. And at the end of the day, it can be just as harmful.
No matter how old you are, what you do for a living, how much money you do or do not have, where you live… no matter what, we are all guilty of falling into this trap. You go to school and you compare your grades to the person sitting next to you, you go on your phone and you compare your body to a model on Instagram, you go to work and you compare your clothes to your colleague’s. You have to understand that this is NOT okay. Why are you doing this to yourself? Maybe the person sitting next to you at school is just better at that subject than you are and this is fine. On the next test, you should try to do better than yourself, not better than the person next to you. And that model on Instagram? Oh she worked hardddd for that body. Do not think that she just woke up one day and was in perfect shape and had flat abs. She put in the work and now she is enjoying the results. You cannot have the same body as her because you do not have the same genes as her! This means it is impossible to ever have her body. However, what you can do is work on your body, look nothing like her and still feel like a freaking sex bomb! And that colleague at work, she has an amazing style, doesn’t she? Well, have you ever thought that while it looks really nice on her, it actually does not represent you or your personality? Find our own voice! Find your own style in which you look and feel good in. That is when you will truly be happy and confident (and not when you are trying to copy someone else’s style). It is perfectly okay to get inspiration from others or get motivated by seeing how far they have come. What is not okay is comparing yourself and beating yourself up because you are not ‘there’ yet. You will get there, in your own time and in your own way. You have to have faith in yourself.
Before starting my blog I watched so many videos and read so many blog posts on the topic of starting your own blog and everyone said the same thing. “You have to be original. Your content has to be different than anything else out there, you have to stand out…” and I thought to myself, I don’t know how to do that. I tried to create similar content that other successful bloggers had created, I tried to do thing the way they did and be more like them. After all, their work had been tested and it worked. I thought they made it in the industry so I would try to be more like them. The truth is, I did not enjoy doing that, whatsoever. I did not enjoy trying to fit into someone else’s shoes. They were not my shoes and they didn’t fit right! Even now, I absolutely love their work; I love their style, the content they create and everything about them. However, I do not aspire to be like them. Now I know how to be original. I am being original just by being me! The content they create is already out there. They are being original by creating it, but when I copy it, I am not! I am so happy I realised that sooner rather than later. Right now, I am more than happy creating all the content I want to create, in the way I want it! I am not trying to fit into any moulds. I am my own person and I am confident in that.
You are original just by being yourself. Have confidence in that, and be proud of who you are. You have no reason to compare yourself to others because they are not you. Trust me, no one has it all. People have wounds and scars and fight battles we know nothing about. Do not envy people for what you think they have or what you think their life is like. Whatever we do in this life, is for us and no one else. Be your own person and own it! If there is something you do not like about yourself, work with what you have and start making a change. But first, love yourself unconditionally! Love yourself so much that you never want to be, look or act like someone else. Love yourself and do it the biggest favour of NEVER comparing yourself with anyone else ever again!
Today you are YOU, that is truer than true. There is no one alive that is Youer than You.
– Dr. Suess.