I have had the most amazing summer but now the time has come for me to head back to the U.K. for my final year as a BA student. I have mixed emotions and even though I know I am so fortunate to be able to do what I do, a part of me is still sad that I have to leave home again. No matter where you come from, home is home and nothing can replace it. So with leaving home to experience the world, you come to realise how much you love your country (which you have probably underestimated up until now) and your people.
I have always lived with my family in a small southwest city in Cyprus, called Paphos. From my little town I moved to London in September of 2015 to study dance. After all that time, the only thing I can say with certainty is that the past two years have been a roller-coaster of emotions (and not in a negative way). I am sure there are so many people out there experiencing the same situation right now, so I know I am not alone. And you, reading this post right now, you should know that you are not alone either. I believe that almost every person that has ever moved away from home for whatever reason got homesick at one point or another and it is perfectly okay.
Weather you are a young adult who moved abroad to study or a family man who moved to a different country in the hopes of finding a better job, remember that you have a pretty good reason for doing what you are doing. When you really miss home remind yourself your purpose and focus on your goals. For all those of us that study abroad, remember that we are so incredibly lucky to have been given this amazing opportunity so make sure to make the most of it!
When you are missing home, pick up the phone and call your parents, your granny, your sister, your friend. Don’t start talking about how much you want to come home and make yourself even more homesick! Instead talk about how your week was, talk about the plans you are making for the weekend and how excited you are for Christmas. Ask about other family members and friends to see how they are doing and ask them about the weather back home. When your conversation is over, hang up the phone and start making plans for the rest of your day and how to make the most of it being exactly where you are. 🙂
This may not be the best piece of advice but I say distract yourself. When you start thinking about home and you start feeling blue find something to distract you from your thoughts. Ideally we should all deal with our emotions, thoughts and feelings… but my opinion is that if you constantly try to fight your feelings in order to find peace, you will just go insane. So yes, sometimes you just have to pretend that you ignore your feelings, and just moving on. Don’t lay in bed thinking about all the things you are missing and bury yourself in your (probably sad) thoughts. Instead put on a movie that you have not watched before, do some uni work or get dressed and go for a walk. Do anything that will get your mind off things that make you miss home so bad.
We are all different people and we all deal with situations differently. I wrote this post in hopes of helping some of you that are dealing with homesickness but I understand that what works for someone might not work for someone else. Either way, you have to make sure that you find ways to deal with this situation if you ever have to face it. Do NOT let yourself drown in your thoughts. Thinking about situations you cannot change, again and again, will get you nowhere. Get up and starting living your life exactly where you are with what you have. For all you know, you might absolutely love it! 😉